Remembering comments from childhood often first brings negative thoughts. It’s sort of amazing to me how true that is. We can remember the scoldings or the mistakes or the failures, but it’s harder to remember any positive affirmation we receive through out our lives.
The stories that you tell about your past shape your future.
– Eric Ransdell in Fast Company
You have positive memories if you will take a few minutes to access them.
Take a few minutes and remember some positive comments that were made to you about yourself when you were a child.
Who said something to you that shaped you in a positive way?
Who saw in you potential when you were too young or naive to see it in yourself?
Who invested in you in a way that you were challenged to see yourself in a new way?
I have to say that this was hard for me when I first did this exercise. I did not have a lot of “cheerleaders” in my young life. I can’t remember teachers singling me out for my intelligence or family members commenting on my positive strengths. No caring neighbor said to me, “You are special” in a personal way that I remember.
I had a softball coach, though.
Ethyl Lee Rehms.
She was my fifth grade teacher, too, and she gave me confidence in the classroom (once, by assigning me as one of four debaters for a class history). She was also our physical education teacher and she made me see that I could be athletic (She told me I ran like a chicken once and that if I held my arms in, I could take a few seconds off my 50-yard dash).
But, as my softball coach, she brought out the best in me.
She put me at third base when I was 10 to get me strong enough to follow the awesome shortstop who was 3 years older than me.
Once, she sent everyone home except for the first baseman(girl) and hit grounders to me for another 30 minutes in the hot Texas summer sun. (I do think she went and moved her car so protect is from my occasional wild throws!)
Miss Rehms invested in me in my deepest places…..
She saw that I was good at something and she made me better.
You have someone like that in your life.
W H O I S I T ?
Download this free worksheet and write it down.
Commit to remembering a Positive Personal Prophecy someone had of you as a child. Or more than one if you are so fortunate.
This is important.
That person identified an important part of you that will be an aspect of your Personal Mission Statement.
If you missed my post from Tuesday, go back and read Describe Yourself and work through part one of today’s free worksheet.
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