The DiSC method of understanding is potentially powerful tool. While there are all sorts of online assessments that will give a basic reading of a person’s behavior style, and plenty of fat personnel files in HR offices, I still prefer to have at least an hour-and-a-half and a paper version to take people through a bit of practical personal discovery.
The paper version I use is self-scoring and has several built-in ways to validate the information. It is not threatening and can actually be a lot of fun, with people who are open to understanding themselves and are willing to be understood.
My goal, when I take a person or a group through a DiSC workshop, is to fill each person’s personal, relational toolbox with new tools.
Here are a few:
- Understand that you are wired a certain way and you will function best within that style.
For example, a young woman came up to me at the end of a presentation and began by saying, “I don’t usually seek speakers out…”. Then, she went on to tell me that all her life, she has been told that she always has to be right, as if that were a weakness. “Now,” she said, “I realize that I am simply wired to be thinking ahead of others and that it is a strength, not a weakness.”
- Understanding your style can help you identify energy sources and drains.
When my husband was a pastor, we finally realized that extended people-intense times drained him. When we moved to the country and he had space and quiet in nature to re-energize, he overcame a long struggle with depression. In an opposite way, there are types who recover with socializing…..hence happy hours, I suspect.
- Knowing that other people have unique styles, possibly different than my own, gives understanding and a lot of freedom.
No wonder some people love a meeting and others dread it. No wonder some people actually like to research facts and others prefer to fly by the seat of their pants. No wonder shopping is fun for some and like pulling fingernails off to others. We are wired with different strengths and preferences.
- Embracing my own preferential pace and focus helps me find my sweet spot for success.
An “S” needs peace and a predictable environment. An “I” wants interaction and celebration. A “C” has to have quiet and wants to have their work validated. A “D” thrives with independence and a challenge. Just knowing that I shouldn’t expect to enjoy, much less be productive in random environments, allows me to create my own space for better results.
Quality tools make your relationships, your work, and running in your strengths easier.